3 Steps You Can Take Today To Stop Looking at Porn

CONNECTIONby Frank Honess

As I think back on my journey from sexual addiction into sexual recovery I can remember the depths and degrees of pain that I caused myself by joining my mind, body, heart, & soul to pornography. I had made connections and associations in my brain alone that would take years to undo.

Among the many devastating effects porn has upon a person’s life, one of the worst effects is that it drains the life from a human being. It steals the ability to feel and to experience emotions.

Webster’s dictionary defines the word “connection” the following way: “a situation in which two or more things have the same cause, origin, goal, etc.”

For years in my life, I was connected to all the wrong things. Porn had become my whole world and I had no idea how to escape it. It wasn’t until the age of 26 that I began to make the right connections to people and things that helped me to find freedom from porn.

There’s a few “connections” you can make today. To me, the word “connection” implies power being drawn from or taken away from. And that’s what these connections are meant to do.

What are the right kind of connections to make as a sexual struggler?

1. CONNECT with an accountability partner or support group.

Allowing people into your secret world is probably the greatest connection you can make. And for some people, it’s also the hardest. Whether it be one person, five, or ten people, the point is to open up and bring your addiction into the light so porn cannot keep the grip on your life that it once had. Find people that are committed to helping you grow and become sexually healthy again. Also, don’t forget to pick these people wisely as not everyone is equipped for accountability.

2. DISCONNECT from your computer and other devices.

Let’s face it: We all love our devices. Probably too much. But truth be told, if you love your computer or iPhone more than you crave freedom and health, you have a real problem. Especially if that means they are your continually source for porn. Go on the offensive and get radical! Pull the plug! How long? However long it takes! While this is not a permanent solution to the problem, creating some sense of disconnection and detaching from these devices will help you majorly in the long term to find the freedom you’re looking for.

3. RECONNECT with your soul and your emotions. Begin to “feel” again.

This is actually not a one time connection, but a series of connections you make over time as you begin walking in freedom. As you become broken over your sin and begin to realize the hurt and pain you’ve caused yourself and other people, you WILL begin to feel again. Pornography has a way of hardening us to the relationships and realities in this world. Why? Because we choose to live in a world full of lies where we “feel” loved and accepted. This is a long term process and will continue as long as you choose to connect to what is real, not the lies that pornography sells.

These are some very powerful connections you can make today. Please don’t wait to become free by doing tomorrow what you know you really should do today. Take action now!

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